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Is your Ego ~ 0 Gan, Chennai The
normal Ego what we encounter is the self referral mechanism which ascertain
one’s supremacy over the subject concerned. The world exists in your head.
The World appears the way you assume. Your Ego gives birth to the world in
your Head. It is ‘I ‘ (Ego) that precede the World.
If ‘I’ has Zero Ego you will be like yet another furniture. This proves that Minimum Ego is a must for
living. The trouble starts with the Judgmental Attitude ‘Right’
and ‘Wrong’: The
Pure ‘I’ is beyond all attributes. But the existential ‘I‘
(False- I) has many attributes out of which Ego is one. Minimum Ego is
require to identify yourself. Because of Ego only
you know that you are Mr.X. The world we live is a dynamic one. We ( Subject) have to interact with others (Objects). There
is a constant interaction by the subject with the object . The trouble starts when the I, Ego, identifies itself with the Mind as the ‘I’. Mind and Ego are companions one within
each. Mind is just collection of
Thoughts. The thoughts through experiences you
have buildup over the years since your childhood is what is called Mind. Similarly everyone has buildup one’s
mind. No mind is Perfect. Mind is a fluctuating and oscillating
criterion and hence can never be perfect.
Perception is one of the qualities of Mind. Hence, perceptions many
times differ. There is no single perfect perception. What is Right
for you may be Wrong for others. This is the starting point of all
troubles. We must always understand that there
is no single perfect ‘Right’ and ‘Wrong’. Right
and Wrong is purely subjective. Society has build
certain conventional things as Right and Wrong which change during the course
of evolution. What is Wrong hundred years back is Right now.
Several
subtle things are beyond Right and Wrong. Feelings are one such. You feel it the way you feel. You can’t
help it. It should be left to the individuals choice as long as it does not come much in
one’s way. Ego gains only when you ascertain your Supremacy and
Impose your Authority: The problem arises only when you too much identify with
your supremacy over the subject concerned.
In personal relationships, how can you wish the subject to be the way
you want? May be you can just tell and advise. It is the prerogative of the
subject to decide upon to accept or reject it. May be you are Right. Also may be you are Wrong . Ego in Children is Most Vulnerable: During
the course of Adolescence, children’s’ start building up their Self Image.
Till the age of around 12 Children don’t have much Self Image. They are like
Parents Puppet. During Adolescence, Self Image starts to buildup. Since
they don’t have sufficient experience and exposure to the world, their mind go erratic. So
only, Children resist most of parental advise, even
if they know they are incorrect. A Newly Growing Ego isn’t it? Children have
bubbling energy which
resist conventional thinking. Children more often can be
compared to an Hydrogen Balloon which always go
afloat and also astray. The best way to win over children is through
Tireless, Patient, Sincere, Slow, Humorous, Loving and Caring Attitude.
Children will fall your way only mm by mm. Imposing authority over children
will yield more negative results only. By-Products of Ego - Argument, Anger, Authority,
Depression, Jealousy, Pain, Stress, Sorrow etc : Most negative tendencies are the products of Ego. When Ego wins you
lose a great
deal in return. There are Hundreds of Negative Tendencies one will develop
due to Ego. Neurotic tendencies develop due to Ego. Stress develop and consequently affects health. Even
people commit Suicide due to Depression which is a by-product of Ego. When
you Love someone where is the question of Ego.
'LOVE IS ALL INCLUSIVE." Accepting everyone with one's
pluses and minuses is Unconditional Love. 90% of Divorces are due to
Ego. It is was in news that a Man did not
speak to his wife for around 30 Years till his death. What a pity? Ego Channeled Properly will yield Beautiful Results: Ego
has positive attributes also. The very Ego if channeled properly will yield
Positive results in achieving wonderful results. Great achievements can be
made if Ego is channeled in a Productive way.
Ego is the creative force of intelligence. If you kill the Ego totally
you will kill the Desire totally. You should only know to channel it properly.
Ego is he momentary self consciousness relating to
the subject concerned. But, many of
Ego’s wrong desires bring contraction to the self. How to overcome your Ego: 10. Accept you have EGO 20.
Constantly remind yourself of overcoming Ego. 30.
Honor other person’s way of thinking as long as it does not come in your way.
40. When other persons actions comes in your
way, advise the consequences and possible repercussions politely. Politely
set the Limits. 50. Don’t impose your Authority unless
otherwise Inevitable and or otherwise a very MUST situation. 60.
When you are WRONG, don’t hesitate to ask Excuse. Accept your Mistake. It
shows you have matured EGO. 70.
The antidotes for Ego is Humbleness and Love and not
feeling supremacy. Just Understand …
MIND = IMPERFECT: Simple
way to understand Ego is, Mind = Imperfect.
Don’t believe too much of your Mind. All minds are subject to Falter.
Develop a Magnanimous Attitude. One thing is definite, Lesser the Ego More
the Happiness. Do you want more Happiness shed your Ego.
That is the easiest way. Better call EGO as E ----
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