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YOU BECOME A BALLOON WHEN IN ANGER! Gan, Chennai What
happens to a Balloon which is fully pressurized and pricked with a small pin?
We know the Answer. It Bursts. We get into turbulence in our day to day life,
leading to Anger,
Frustration, Anxiety, Impatience,
Overload etc due to various reasons. Every human being is a Trinity aspect of
Body, Mind and Soul. Tacking one’s own Body, Mind and Soul is such a tough
task, how about tackling another Human Being who has a different Body, Mind
and Soul Rhythm? Following are some tips to attempt while you are not in tune
with your own
self or someone else or you enter into an argument with your Near and
Dear. Rule # 1: DON’T RUSH UP IN COMMUNICATIONS Understand
this first. Even Your Spouse, Your Son and Your Daughter are not the same
you. During difference of opinions, trying to communicate your entire
thoughts to someone in a few seconds is virtually impossible. We rush up to
communicate with the opposite person, which usually turn into heated argument
leading to break-up in relationship and understanding. Rule # 2 : SLOW DOWN In
arguments a wise person will always slow down, think the end result and utter
each and every word. Tell your opponent,” I have a different view point. Let
us discuss in detail and then come to a conclusion. Let us first discuss the
entire matter. No fruitful result will emerge without a thorough discussion.
So please be patient. Let us discuss the matter and arrive at the decision
soon.” Rule #3 : LISTEN A
mature person will always Listen more than what he Talks. Allow the opponent
to come out and never intercept however rubbish the points are. Just Listen.
It gives great relief to the opposite person when someone listens to him. Rule #4 : SPEAK IN LOW PITCH However
correct you are, a High Tone will spoil your entire driving point. Think yourself to be more mature than the opponent and speak in
a Low Pitch. Rule#5 : ANIMALS ONLY BEHAVE INSTINCTIVELY If
most of our behavior is Instinctive in nature, we are nothing but an Animal.
Animals only have Instinctive Behavior without deep thinking. They don’t have
Intellect and Intuition. We are invested with the faculty of Intellective
Thinking and Intuition Character. Make use of them. Rule#6 : FEEL FROM
HEART, SPEAK FROM MIND Heart is the seat of Feelings. Highest emotions like Love, Compassion, Affection, Sadness etc are all from the Heart. Feel from the Heart. Your Mind may cheat you, but your Heart will never cheat you. Mind is most cunning always. Don’t believe your Mind. All conflicts are because of Mind only. Mind means Perception. Perceptions means difference. Trust your Consciousness. Trust your Heart. Rule#7: GO FOR A
WALK, OR TO A RESTAURANT
OR PARK AND DISCUSS We
behave with better sense in Public Places rather than in our House. Go for a Walk or else to a restaurant or to a Park and discuss the matter. Rule#8: TAKE TIME
TO ARRIVE AT A CONCLUSION Dust can not settle in an Instant.
It also takes time to arrive at conclusions and solutions. Allow time. Time
is the best medicine for all inconclusive arguments. Rule #9 : TAKE
EXPERT’S OPINION Every person will have few well
wishers. When arguments become inconclusive take the opinion of your well
wishers. Both parties can take independent or joint consultation with well
wishers. Rule#10: TAKE DEEP BREATHING, DO MEDITATION and BRING MORE AWARENESS Lack of Self Awareness is the main
reason for out of control speech. Take to Deep Belly Breathing. Do
Meditation. Do Pranayama. Sit before God and Pray.
Go to Rule #11 : BALLOON ANOLOGY Imagine the opponent and even your
own self to
a Pressurized Balloon when one is in Anger, Frustration,
Anxiety, Impatience, Overload
etc. Don’t Prick it with Sharp words
for you know what the Balloon will do. Rule #12 : READ THIS OFTEN Constant perseverance is the road
to success. First have the desire to improve yourself. Then make a sincere
attempt. Read this paragraph often. Discuss and Explain this to somebody. Try
to become a Teacher, at least you will become a good
student! (Oh!
God! I could get this Enlightenment only after a Tough Argument with my Dear
One!) |
